Hey people,
Hope your all doing well and in the best of health, I am good and back on the training loving it, honestly if your a regular runner and you stop then you feel fat and can't enjoy not doing it, so if you know how I feel get off your ass and run hahaha.
Anyway moving to today's topic yes you heard right I am talking about the weird and wonderful relationship between a mother-in law and daughter- inlaw, it's clear this relationship counts only IN LAW hahahaha. I haven't come across many people who get on with the mother of her husband because mothers won't let her son go in fear of loosing him and wife's take on the challenge, so there is no balance and I will go on to explain how a balance is kept.
Why do mothers make life so hard for the new bride even though they were once in that position, the problem is they all forget they were the daughter inlaw and wife with the same issues. I have come across so many mummies boys and if I am honest I would advise don't marry him, he won't come out the nappies and mummy won't stop spoon feeding him and changing him hahaha.
I know I am laughing a lot but the ladies who are reading this know exactly what I mean, women have mothers as well and we leave them to start a new life with our husbands but we always come across the difficult mother- inlaw which is such a shame. I am not saying the wife isn't to blame because sometimes we do put the husbands in a difficult position, but both of these women require love and that's why I insist balance is very important.
I have a friend who is of a traditional background and when she got married if they locked their bedroom door the mother inlaw used to say "why have you locked the door", WTF seriously she thought does this women not have a sense of privacy, the reason the door was locked was because her mother inlaw kept walking straight in the mornings without knocking. The funny part is when she would lock the door at bed time her husband used to say leave it open in case mum needs to come in, she tells me she wanted to smack him so hard just for saying that, trust me this guy and his mother are on another level of mummy baby love, she often wants to hand him back over to his mother even till today hahahaha.
So we have extremes but I believe that if both parties are good to each other there is no reason for a rift, it works both ways so if your having problems or creating them you know your in the wrong and 3 people will be unhappy the mother, wife and husband as there is no balance and life will be unbearable also something to understand is this problem never goes away. I have a favourite film I like watching it's Jennifer Lopez in Monster-inlaw the name says it all, this film is hilarious and well worth watching, the moral of the story is the fight never ends until both sides agree for a truce otherwise the atmosphere will always be tense.
I am a very fair individual and I say that because I have four brothers happily married and I am best friends with my sister-inlaws I am their friend and sister I always see there side of the story and try to make my mum understand, being a women she needs to think how she makes them feel if there is a problem. My mum bless her is old now and she has a short temper the plus side is she tells us all off equally and I am her only daughter, so the girls understand mum is all about equal opportunities hahahaha.
I say all this from experience and how is the balance kept, it's the mans job yes he needs to show both these women they are equally as special and not to hurt either in his quest to be the perfect son and husband. Now your gonna ask how is he gonna do that? men are not multi-taskers very true, clearly the wife needs her time and attention if she gets that she won't complain unless she is the evil sick twisted cow then your doomed. If he gives the mother that reassurance that she is special and his mother there will be no problems.
I hope you guys enjoyed this short but true factor in our life's, you just need to grin and bare it because we all hope for love from all the relationships we have, but some people are just not capable of that so we have to see who is worth the work.
Have a lovely day and peace and love to the world yours truly Sam..........
Hope your all doing well and in the best of health, I am good and back on the training loving it, honestly if your a regular runner and you stop then you feel fat and can't enjoy not doing it, so if you know how I feel get off your ass and run hahaha.
Anyway moving to today's topic yes you heard right I am talking about the weird and wonderful relationship between a mother-in law and daughter- inlaw, it's clear this relationship counts only IN LAW hahahaha. I haven't come across many people who get on with the mother of her husband because mothers won't let her son go in fear of loosing him and wife's take on the challenge, so there is no balance and I will go on to explain how a balance is kept.
Why do mothers make life so hard for the new bride even though they were once in that position, the problem is they all forget they were the daughter inlaw and wife with the same issues. I have come across so many mummies boys and if I am honest I would advise don't marry him, he won't come out the nappies and mummy won't stop spoon feeding him and changing him hahaha.
I know I am laughing a lot but the ladies who are reading this know exactly what I mean, women have mothers as well and we leave them to start a new life with our husbands but we always come across the difficult mother- inlaw which is such a shame. I am not saying the wife isn't to blame because sometimes we do put the husbands in a difficult position, but both of these women require love and that's why I insist balance is very important.
I have a friend who is of a traditional background and when she got married if they locked their bedroom door the mother inlaw used to say "why have you locked the door", WTF seriously she thought does this women not have a sense of privacy, the reason the door was locked was because her mother inlaw kept walking straight in the mornings without knocking. The funny part is when she would lock the door at bed time her husband used to say leave it open in case mum needs to come in, she tells me she wanted to smack him so hard just for saying that, trust me this guy and his mother are on another level of mummy baby love, she often wants to hand him back over to his mother even till today hahahaha.
So we have extremes but I believe that if both parties are good to each other there is no reason for a rift, it works both ways so if your having problems or creating them you know your in the wrong and 3 people will be unhappy the mother, wife and husband as there is no balance and life will be unbearable also something to understand is this problem never goes away. I have a favourite film I like watching it's Jennifer Lopez in Monster-inlaw the name says it all, this film is hilarious and well worth watching, the moral of the story is the fight never ends until both sides agree for a truce otherwise the atmosphere will always be tense.
I am a very fair individual and I say that because I have four brothers happily married and I am best friends with my sister-inlaws I am their friend and sister I always see there side of the story and try to make my mum understand, being a women she needs to think how she makes them feel if there is a problem. My mum bless her is old now and she has a short temper the plus side is she tells us all off equally and I am her only daughter, so the girls understand mum is all about equal opportunities hahahaha.
I say all this from experience and how is the balance kept, it's the mans job yes he needs to show both these women they are equally as special and not to hurt either in his quest to be the perfect son and husband. Now your gonna ask how is he gonna do that? men are not multi-taskers very true, clearly the wife needs her time and attention if she gets that she won't complain unless she is the evil sick twisted cow then your doomed. If he gives the mother that reassurance that she is special and his mother there will be no problems.
I hope you guys enjoyed this short but true factor in our life's, you just need to grin and bare it because we all hope for love from all the relationships we have, but some people are just not capable of that so we have to see who is worth the work.
Have a lovely day and peace and love to the world yours truly Sam..........
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