Tuesday, 29 October 2013

Mr RIGHT or Mr RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!!

Hello world,



I just got out of bed now, I know some call me lazy, but in my defense it's my day off training, so I am going to enjoy it. The weather is perfect in Dubai these days, sun is bright and the evenings are breezy, the breeze touches you saying as it goes by, that it its here to stay.

Today I am touching on a subject which needs to be discussed, yes you guessed right, Men. I would pay top dollar to get into the mind of a man, to know what the hell goes on in the nutcase hahahaha. I mean they are bright, but when it comes to women total losers. I am talking about the majority not minority, so if your a man who is pleasing his women, you're the minority that I'm not talking about.

So the title is Mr. right or Mr. right now, the meaning of that connects to our emotional state, you see us women were made to be loved and cared for, we seek companions and are scared of being alone. Its a fact we say you don't need a man, but if your honest with yourself, being loved and loving is the best feeling ever. We women feed from that, I love the women who know how to treat them mean and keep them keen, but this isn't the goal for every women.

Our problem I can tell you, is we wait for their messages we wait for their calls, if they don't reply we don't sleep and if they do, we sleep like baby's. Don't tell me this isn't true, because the reason I am writing this blog today, is because I keep discovering our neediness for attention and love. I have seen close friends go through this and I won't lie I am the same in many ways.

What we are finding hard to do is not give a shit, its true how many of you don't care when you don't get a reply and don't say "I don't". Be true to yourself, you all know nearly all of us are like that, this isn't a bad thing ladies it only makes us human, I'm not here to make you hate yourselves, actually quite the opposite.

What I want is for us to self reflect, accept and find a way to make us happier and manage the situation. I want this for us all including me, to be able to live without upsetting ourselves on why men don't care. After a man has got you as wife or girlfriend, the challenge is over and he becomes comfortable, that's why his eye wonders, if he's faithful he doesn't bother paying attention to you because your his now.

Well why can't we become like them, if you can't be that way, you can sure pretend. By doing this you will be training yourself into this, with time becoming more easy going, with the fact that man is lazy unless he's chasing you.

I read a story about JLO, you all know who she is right, Jennifer Lopez. Well she has moved from man to man in search of love, when I read her story last night, only made it even more apparent that we may be rich, or poor thin or curvier, we are women in search of love and love being in love. She has apparently broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years, he is 26 and she is hitting her forties.

JLO's problem is somewhat the same she broke up with her husband Marc Anthony and 3 months later she got with her now boyfriend, who was her back-up dancer. The magazines say she hates being alone, well guess what?, that's all of us in a nutshell, being loved and being in love is what we do.

So don't feel bad, if JLO is feeling this way and she has all the money in the world, then we are allowed to feel that we are needy and always looking to be loved. So when your man isn't paying any attention to you, he isn't replying to your messages what to do?

Here's a breakdown of what I think you need to do:

  • Firstly you need to pretend you don't care, you're thinking, how does that work, well if you have sent a message and you don't get a reply. Hold yourself back and don't send another, until you don't get a reply. Even when the reply comes through don't instantly reply, give it at least 30 minutes.
I have a friend who I was out with and she kept looking at her phone every 10 minutes or less, I was telling her don't do that. She didn't listen and kept saying he was online, on blackberry and Wattsapp and hasn't replied why, why, why. I told her to wait for him to reply and even though she was having fits, she waited and all was well. You see I know it's hard, but you are capable of doing this
  •  Find a hobby or something to divert your attention, once he realizes your world doesn't revolve around him, he will start paying attention.
Men love the fact that we fuss over them, we are ready to give up everything for them, but they wouldn't cancel golf, footy or anything they love. So show them your the same. Act like a man and be a lady is the way to live.

  • Pay attention to the way you look, if you look hot and aren't bothered and are busy imagine, he's going to think what the hell is going on.
Men are used to us needing them, once we make them realize we don't, they come running like puppies, trust me this never fails. Unless your man genuinely doesn't care and your ok with that, this won't flop.

I am giving you a simple three step formula try it and see, I could give you ten things to do, but My way of thinking is small steps can make the most impact if executed properly.

Also make clear to yourself who is Mr. Right and who is Mr. Right now. Mr. Right is your soul mate who you feel you can do anything for and it works both ways, and Mr. Right now is the man your with for the moment, he is the one not worth stressing over, he is the one who should be chasing you, so enjoy the moment with him, follow my steps and don't let this man stress you out. You should be making him stress over you, the way to do that is at least act like you don't care.

You want your man all over you, give him a reason to be, men run after the stronger women emotionally, because she doesn't need them. So be her for a week or 2 weeks and tell me if I'm wrong.

Free yourself from waiting chasing worrying, its not healthy for us, we are too lovely and wonderful to be treated this way, so lets change it up baby.

I hope you found this helpful as I will be giving out more advice on this, also how to seduce your man as well, but not everything should be given away now.

Have a nice day and good luck, because I know its hard but there's no such thing as "I can't", remember that.

peace and love to you beautiful people and smile because life isn't worth living without one.

Yours Truly Sam...............

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